Which would you rather have?

Your long term boyfriend/husband who you love more than yourself confessing to you that he is gay OR that he is in love with another woman?

For me, my answer a few years ago was I'd rather have him be in love with another woman. BECAUSE...at least then there's still that slight chance he will come to realize that what he is feeling towards the other woman could just be a phase and then come back to me. If he turned out to be gay, there's no chance for that or whatsoever for the obvious reasons. He's gay. There's no un-gaying him. Right?

But now, I'm not so sure what my answer is. If he confessed to me that he is gay, will it be easier for me to move on knowing that it's not me who caused the split up? Will it be easier for me to move on knowing that it isn't ANOTHER WOMAN he's throwing us away for? Or will the pain just be equal knowing that man or woman, he still chose someone else?

How about you guys? What do you think? And no, Jun is not cheating on me nor is he gay. I really am just curious. I remember having this same conversion with two of my girl friends years ago, but it was "Would you rather have your long term boyfriend confess to you that he is in love with another girl OR learn that he is dying?" Our answers were mean because we all chose the latter. Haha. But now, honestly I do not which I would choose. Having my husband-to-be fall in love with another woman would BE just like him dying...because he's no longer going to be there. But would seeing him lying in a coffin be more painful than seeing him lying in bed with another woman?

I dunno. I'm sitting here eating chips and all these random things popping up into my head. I hope it's the first signs of labour.